Thursday, September 25, 2008

Understanding Your Friend


Friends...
they are among the most influencial people in our life (some even rank them as no #1)...
however, it is normal for friends 2 fight n quarrel sometimes...
nobody is perfect...
so we sometime makes mistakes which hurt our friends...
understanding is one of the most in important thing for a good relationship with your friends...

Imagine you are having a problem and it is really making you feel sad and down...
so you turn to your friend and say
'Bro, I need your help. I have a big problem.'
and you tell your friend about all of the things that are disturbing you...
But what is your friend reaction towards this??
Here are a few negative reactions...
1. Looks at you with blur impression/ doesn't pay too much attention to you. This really irritates other people so please don't do this to your friends.
2. Gives a resonance effect ot your problem by saying " You have a problem. I have a problem too." And in the end, both of them cried over their problems. (this is usually the case for girls hehehe)
3. Before you even finished telling him/her about your problems, he/she turns to you and says "Be patient. Itu semua cobaan". I wouldn't say this is wrong. It's just that the timing is wrong.

So how should you react when your friend comes to you with a problem.
These are a few tips:
1. Listen to him/her and your full attention to what he/she is speaking. Try to comfort him/her while your listening.
2. Try to understand what your friend is feeling. Put yourself in his/her shoe.
3. Give suggestions to solve his/her problems if you have any.
4. Be supportive.

Even though you will usually be unable to solve your friends problem, just becoming a good listener is good enough to help ease your friends burden.

Lastly to all my friends out there,
FRIENDS 4 EVER!!!!

2 comments:

ekroyorke said...

ish3..trase dowh! =P

tunsyed10 said...

Ya ka??
hehehehe